Ghanaians and Internet Dating
In the past several months,
there has been an increase in issues posted to the Ghana
forums regarding Ghanaian “friends” who were met over the
internet, or who are cyber dating through internet dating
websites. You can scroll through the issues for more
information. Many questions and issues have to do with the
sincerity or veracity of the “friend” from Ghana, who
urgently needs either money or the shipment of goods to him
or her here in Ghana. In the vast majority of cases, all of
these poor innocents were being scammed or conned by the
Ghanaian friend, whether male or female, it mattered little.
Stories, and that is really all they are, that have been
posted tell of a Ghanaian who needed $400 for a new cell
phone which was stolen, though you can buy a new activated
cell phone here for as little as $35. Someone else needed
work boots and other items sent to him, shipment of which
would cost $400 from the States (truly very very expensive
to ship to Ghana), yet all those items are easily obtained
here in Ghana. Someone else needed $300 because her father
was having eye surgery; the cost of a normal doctor visit is
less than $5, surgery may run about $100-$140, if that.
Someone else needed $3,500 for their mother’s funeral…
funerals in Ghana are not like funerals in the USA, and are
long drawn out eleborate affairs; “donations” by mourners at
the end of the funeral period usually more than cover the
cost of the funeral outlay. The pattern is plain: Gimme,
There are several websites that now have information about
cyber-dating scams, and they are listed below.
Overseas Security Advisory Council
Blog: Studies in Romance Scamming
Delphifaq: Dating Scammer in Accra
MSNBC: Seduced into Scams
U.S. Embassy in Accra
Nigeriaworld: The new faces of internet dating
Ghanaweb: Internet Fraud II
Dr. Phil Message Boards
Mate1 Internet Dating Fraud Warning
Lookstogoodtobetrue fraud website
You can also google internet romance scams and see how many
hundreds of hits you get. It is becoming a huge problem.
But, here are some common sense tips that may help you sort
Google their “name” and see if you get any hits. Sometimes,
the scammers actually do use their real name.
If the scammer is saying that they are white, and are
claiming that they are American or British citizens or
Europeans who somehow got “stranded” in Ghana, don’t believe
it. Their Embassy would help them in some way, shape or
Even if they send you a picture, it may be one that they
downloaded from the internet. If you want to know what they
really look like, insist that they go to a cyber café that
has web cam and IM you at the same time; all the big
internet cafes here in Accra have it, BusyInternet, SmartNet,
etc. It is not expensive to do that, maybe like $2.
If the issue is an unpaid doctor or hospital bill, tell them
you will send money only to the hospital. Go to Ghanaweb.com
and check the directory/phone book for a listing, don’t
believe what they tell you. You may even have a "doctor" or
"hospital administrator" who will call you and tell you that
money is urgently needed. Don't believe it, even here in
Ghana, doctor's don't have time for that. Tell them you
absolutely won’t send them any money, see how fast they drop
Another red flag should be poor English skills; most of
these scammers only got as far as junior high school, if
Made up names is another thing the scammer might try.
Someone who normally goes through life is Kwame is suddently
Sean Michaels (or as he might spell it, Shorn Michaels).
If someone claims they're from Arizona, you can verify that.
Here's a link to a good website that can provide this
service. Just have their IP address, which you can find on
an email using full headers, and copy and paste it to the IP
You may have a legitimate person on the other end. It does
happen, though very very rarely. And they may really want to
be your friend, but the first time they ask you for
something, no matter how small, just say NO. It won't take
long before the person's true colors show, because they
don't have time to dance with someone who doesn't want to
pay. There are too many other gullible, anxious, trusting,
innocent people in the world.
The bottom line is, don’t lose your heart and your head over
an internet romance. Keep your credit cards in your wallet,
don't send any money through Western Union, where the
recipient only needs the code word to retrieve it, and an ID
card. Don't mail anything to them through the post office.
Once they've got the money or the goods, you're scammed.
Always tread cautiously. and trust your gut instincts.
Stories are coming in about requests of money because of
arrest at the airport (sometimes for smuggling gold or
drugs), to escape imprisonment by corrupt local officials,
to pay for emergency medical expenses, and so on.The
requests always come with a great sense of urgency
attempting to panic you into paying without thinking.
Gay Dating Scams
Homosexuality is illegal in Ghana. This gives opportunities
to unscroupulous people who are out for fast money. The fact
is, very few genuine homosexuals use the gay dating sites.
The majority of the people on them are either not gay and
never intend to have intimacy, are 'gay for pay' or gay but
looking for money or an easy way out. The worst is they
blackmail or extort money, often using real or fake police.
People have also been kidnapped and beaten up. A Google
search will bring up scores of horror stories.
Two sites which deal with gay dating scams are:
Gay Dating Scams in Ghana
General Advice for Gay travellers
It is NOT advisable to come to Ghana just to meet someone
you met online. However, if you are travelling here and wish
to meet someone then read the following advice.
1. If you are travelling to Ghana never let anyone know the
date you are arriving and your flight information. Do not
allow them to meet you at the airport - you might find they
arrive with the police to arrest you.
2. Don't let them know you are coming because of them. Tell
them you are meeting friends here and will make time to see
3. If you bring them to your hotel or house you may find
they will return with the police. The hotel may also alert
4. Do not go to the guy's house. They may have their gang
waiting to beat you up. It is better to meet them in a
public place although there are several reports of people
being kidnapped in full view of the public, including on
5. If you have intimacy, keep track of the used condoms -
they can be used as evidence against you.
6. Stay away from people who live in Tema, Christian
Village, West Legon, West Land, Achimota and Nima. These are
places known for criminal activity.
7. Never send money. It only encourages them! Don't allow
them to book your hotel, organise visas, etc. You may find
you never see them or your money again.
This is my idea about this issue, just mine maybe not yours.
I have been warned by my australian friends and my french
friends about this issue . But i believe the good ones
always more than the bad in this world, even thought the
bads exist , no one can negative this truth.
I have known and have been falling in love with a nice
Ghanain man , and I hope he is honest and not the liar, and
i also pose to me that if he is the scammer as people think,
he is also human, and people have the right to do everything
they want, they expect for their life to be better than
their current life , as another one. And if you are their
victime of their scams ,and you let they cheat you, if your
fault. I don't judge the innocent ones or trusful ones ,
they are victime of their kind-hearted.
I would like to send you message that don't let your heart
to be hurted by a cheat in this life. And don't lose your
hope that the Good always more than the Bad.
I hope when read this message, those guys will have a
serious behavior for treating the honest people who are
willing to bring them the happiness, the real happiness.
Please treat others the way you want to be treated.
As long as you are happy and peaceful in your heart .
I hope those guys will find the way to make their life
happier throught another way. and please think that " Money
can not bring to you the happiness, can not bring to youthe
real Happiness if your heart is not peaceful "
" Lots of thing just Only Love can do "
Good luck to me and you all.
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