The Power of Positive Thinking in 2011
Georgette Dede Djaba, LL.M, London
January 9,
2011
We are bombarded by negative messages and toxic language from
our clients, television, radio, newsprint, the internet, friends
and some family members on a daily basis. With all the
negativity that abound, how can we stay positive? Is it even
possible? Even if we strive to keep a positive outlook, are we
just seeing the world through the proverbial rose coloured
glasses?
The world can be a cruel place. There is crime, murder,
unhappiness and disease. The world can also be a wonderful place.
There is love, compassion, companionship and joy. Both scenarios
exist and will affect us in our lives.
However, which do we want to have as the prominent emphasis in
our lives?
Quite honestly, attitude is a major factor. The difference
between optimism and pessimism. Is the glass half-full or
half-empty? I cannot tell you that it is easy to remain positive
at all times. Some disciplines of the metaphysical thought seem
to suggest that if we are truly enlightened and spiritual
persons,we will and are able to welcome all events to our lives,
viewing them as positive. In other words, a learning experience.
Intellectually, that can be easy to grasp. But what happens when
’learning experience’ hits home and comes
crashing into our lives?
We might be studying and moving forward on an enlightened
spiritual path.
However, the majority of us still maintain ordinary everyday
lives. We may be on the right path, perhaps busy minding our own
business. When a major negative happens, perhaps the loss of an
important case, client, relationship or close friend, death of a
loved one or being victimized by a crime such as rape or murder,
being 'enlightened' is difficult. It is not easy to view those
experiences as just another learning experience. How do you
maintain a perfect positive outlook at a time like that? We are
human. Negative things, such as gunshot wounds to the head will
probably happen to us at some point, such as the beautiful U.S.
Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords in Arizona yesterday. We
sincerely pray that she recovers.
In the same token, positive things can and will happen to us at
some point as well. Therefore it is essential that in our
dealings with our friends, family and loved ones, we exhibit the
following: charm, positiveness, humour, stability, strength,
momentum, honesty, genuineness, wit, intelligence,
thoughtfulness and trust.
Please be civil. It does not hurt to say good things and use
positive language.
Avoid foul language, arrogance, bitterness, rudeness, anger,
negative thinking, over-sensitivity, low self-esteem,
off-putting comments and above all, complaining and whining.
May the sum of any negatives always be outweighed by all the
positives in our lives. A positive person will strive to
emphasise the good and those positives.
It is back to Attitude and what we allow to be the major
emphasis in our lives.
By having a positive outlook, we are not ignoring
reality or denying our
emotions. When we hurt or are unhappy with events, we should
allow ourselves to admit it. Negativity is being caught and
trapped in a rut and dwelling on those
hurts. Being positive means allowing us that time to heal and
then moving
forward.
Georgette Dede Djaba is a solicitor of the Supreme Court of
England and Wales.
She is a public speaker, mentor, mediator and motivator. Email:
gdjaba@yahoo.com
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